How much do babies really cost?

[BabyBoyOnTheWay]

I am going to a prepare for parenting class and the woman who runs it thinks that "my situation" is not really suitable to bring a baby into. By the way i'm pregnant...
She thinks that i am not financially secure enough and that i am not emotionally ready. I partially agree to the later, because i am 22. I do have lots of anxiety over the baby, but i am not going to give it up. She says that i won't be able to care for it properly as i don't have any money. My partner earns £25,000 a year and i am in uni at the moment, but i will have finished by the time baby is born. I will then be a fully quallified, so when i want to i can get back to work. I feel that we do have enough money, we have about £5,000 in the bank and we live in a two bed semi.
please if anyone can tell me, how much do i really need? Financially do you think i could care for the baby?

[llccjj]

No, i don't think you're ready, neither financially or emotionally. You're not married, you don't have a job, you're clearly not well off enough and you clearly know it.
Consider adoption, then that way you're baby gets a good life and you don't have to worry about your baby any more...

[Guest]

as an adoptee, don't get it adopted. 8/10 adoptees have mental health problems, 4/10 birth mothers have depression OVER THEIR LOST BABY. So you won't have to worry about it was bull. I think that you sound ready to me, you have the space, the money in the bank and you partner is earning more.

[sashae83]

okay, so how does these teenage mothers survive (they don't have an income of £25K per year)

A child is as expensive as you make it.... sign up for parenting clubs (boots, tesco,pampers) and use money off coupons, BOGOF especially on wipes and nappies.
Believe you me no-one will care that you use coupons when buying bits and pieces.
Oh and reward cards are brilliant (boots advantage card - with double points).

Hope this helps.

[Guest]

£27.50

[mollypen]

If you don't spend money on silly things, then you can afford it.
Consider using cloth nappies, it will save you a heap of money compared to disposables. You can even buy them new, washed and never used on ebay or at thenappylady.

[Guest]

£27.50

Nah, special price of £22.00 in Portugal at the moment

[Big Balls]

Implying that a good parent is one who earns/has a lot of spare cash is simply crap. Some of the most loving and caring families are broke.
Most of all it matters if you love your child. I only earn £18.000 a year but that doesnt make me a bad parent........ or does it?

[Winky89]

My family consists of 5 people and the main earner earns less than £15,000 yet we survive and have happy lives. Most of the people posting here are trolls, ignore them if you are indeed a "real" poster yourself.

[saucy_minx754]

When I was born my parents were earning less than £20,000 a year, and I never went without anything as a child.

[F**k Nuts]

check it, my brother thought we should have a baby throwing comp so we went to find one now he spent 4k on some lil brat but i found mine in a dumbster round oh my i thing those kids had a fun time be lauched across that room, now ther older the dumb as F*** so dont play that ame trust but yeah you wanna kid il sell you ma wifes for 200 dollars, other than that they cost 4k or jus find the ugly ck r
GET OVER IT BITCH

[Guest]

now ther older the dumb as F*** so dont play that ame

Sure it wan't you as the ball that the baby throwing game was played with?

[azraelle]

A child is as expensive as you make it....

But, babies are like horses--the initial expense is only the tip of the iceberg! But they are oh so nice to have around (most of the time, anyway )

[mysteryperson]

Of course you can look after a baby on £25,000, it just seems like you don't even want the baby to start off with though.

[WannaBeMummy]

No, i don't think you're ready, neither financially or emotionally. You're not married, you don't have a job, you're clearly not well off enough and you clearly know it.
Consider adoption, then that way you're baby gets a good life and you don't have to worry about your baby any more...

Regarding the quote....
I think that is really out of order - you most likely dont know her, or have even met her, but yet you sit there and type that horrible message about how "clearly not well off enough" she is..... HOW DO YOU KNOW!!!

Well to be honest. I'm only 18 and I feel ready to have a child with my 19 yr old boyfriend. Yeah your all probably thinking... what on earth is she thinking! We are both in full time jobs, my parents said they would help me out with money and babysitting too But I have decieded i wish to persue my career and stay on for a few more years to be come fully qualified accountant.

Believe me, some people would love to have children out there, but just can't ~ and you giving your baby away for adoption will (in the end) ruin your relationship (ive seen it happen) or drive you mad!!


I say " You Go Girl!" and be happy in your stable relationship and good luck with the little one.

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