Drifting Apart

Christina writes:

I've been with my boyfriend for the past 7 years and I am now 21 years old. About 14 months ago we broke up for about 3 months or so and saw different people. We got back together because we still felt like something was missing even though we were with someone else.

He wanted me to move in with him shortly after we got back together and I really wasnt ready to. He got very mad that I wasnt ready to and was about to break up with me over it. So I told him that I would move in and try it out (even though I really didnt want to). Here's the thing: I have it made here with him because I dont have to pay for anyting except for food because I am in college for nursing and I can only work part time. Ive been living with him for about 6 months now and I always have moving back home with my parents on the back of my mind but I dont know whats keeping me from doing it? I am really unhappy here because I feel like his maid and like it just isnt working! He works 5 days a week and when its the weekend, he'd rather go fishing with his friend than ask me if I want to do anything with him. When we sit down to dinner, we have nothing to talk about because we work two different jobs that both of us dont want to hear eachother talking about. There is not conversation between us what-so-ever.

Even kissing or sex feels like a chore for me! I cant get into it and he does not turn me on anymore like he use to. I don't know if its that I need my own space or I should just finally end it once and for all between us? We've been through this same crap before and now it feels like we are doing it all over again. I am starting school next month and I really don't want to be miserable anymore. Any suggestions? Please help! Thanks

Yin's Answer

I think you've answered your own question there.....you sound thoroughly miserable and didn't once say anything good about your relationship...I think you need to seriously sit down and have a chat with your partner about the way you feel.

If you don't have anything solid to keep you together now then things will only get tougher when you go to school and your life gets busier.

Yang's Answer

Well you don't sound happy at all and if all you can think of our negative points- apart from all his money- then there's no point in carrying on with the relationship.

It sounds likde you're just two very different people who have grown apart so if you can't find any common ground then you will never get along. Your message sounds like you've already made your mind up so it's time you told your man so that you can both move on.